fast

I was visiting church members today.  They have well launched children and umpteen grandbabies and what we agreed upon is this:

The lives of our children go so fast.  One minute, they are handed to us wrapped in swaddling clothes and we commence to loving passionately and then, after countless breakfasts and shoe ties and recitals and games and wet beds and school conferences, they are grown and gone to the lives we helped ready them to live.

Watching my children unfold into their beauty is probably the greatest miracle I’ve been given to witness.  I like them so much.  I love discovering that they are funny and wise and interested and I love knowing that I will never be able to know them fully, these persons who resided next to my heart for nine months and who walk with my heart for the rest of their lives.

It goes fast.  I watch families now.  Cooper and I are those slightly creepy old people who ooh and ahh over the children of strangers.  They interact with us, these kind parents, with a wary sort of appreciation.  What I want to say to them is savor it savor it savor it savor it.

When your eyes are crossed with fatigue and you are not sure you can stand one more question or interrupted whatever, take a breath and take your babies on your lap and smell their heads and listen to their hearts because before you know it they are launched and gone and you too will be one of those people who tries hard to live in the present whilst mewling for the past.

It goes fast.

holy fish

At a training I attended a few months ago I encountered a great bit of teaching.

Peter Steinke is a trainer and teacher who has dealt plenty with churches.  And anybody who deals plenty with churches deals plenty with conflict and finding ways to work together as the Body of Christ.  Steinke has written godsend books about how to navigate church systems.  When I am feeling near overwhelmed by the tangle that is church, Steinke is gift.

So at this training, he had this story to tell about how to navigate church conflict.  He told the story about a friend who was working in Alaska for the summer.  He was engaged by a fishery to process fish back in the days when that work was done by hand.  He watched for a while, overwhelmed by the flash of knife and his own incompetence and inability to enter the filleting fray.

He shared that anxiety with a seasoned worker.  What the worker’s advice was is this:

“Just get the fish on the table and go to it.  You will find and learn your way.  If you don’t get the fish on the table, nothing will get done.”

The metaphor helps me when considering how to navigate challenges and conflict at church.  Often I coach myself:  Get the fish on the table.  By putting issues in the open where they are seen and felt and concrete, things get done.  We find our way.  We learn from each other.

And we have that greatest of gifts as we go about the cleaning up of the fish of conflict:  we have the teachings of Jesus to guide us.  He was really clear about how to deal with snarl.  Matthew 18 is bedrock:  Talk to your kin in Christ about the ways you are feeling overwhelmed or hurt or frustrated or confused or concerned.  Put the fish on the table in order that you share the power of learning and stretch together.

So we are living as best we can the way of table fish.  It’s messy and smelly and we’re getting better at it as we practice and trust.

It is holy communion.

soul hunger

I’ve been thinking a lot about soul hunger these days.

What is it this over-stretched world of ours needs in order to feed soul?  For many, that answer lies in church buildings and pews and the community we call “church”.

Others have been put off by the organization calling itself church.  For years they have heard words of condemnation emanating out of organized Christian outposts and they want none of it.  Rather than do the hard work of interpreting long-used language in order for it to be meaningful in ways life-giving, many don’t even try to find soul food in church.

I smart about that.  I want to argue.  I want to say that “we aren’t like that here!”.  We welcome all, we seek to see the Christ in all, we want people to know the glory of their messy humanity and the power of joining together with other imperfects and we want to learn and work together in such a way that our lives and our world are transformed.

But how to get past the barbed-wire of unsafe many have put around the thing called “church”?

I’d welcome your thoughts on that.

hope

I just read my daughter’s Facebook post and I am heart happy for two reasons.

First, she mentioned that she had been at a performance of Handel’s Messiah at a cathedral in Denver.

Leah was raised by a father who conducted choirs and a mother who sang in a semi-professional choral ensemble.  Every year at this time of year our children could count on Christmas concerts to attend.  At the high school, at various venues in Duluth and the surrounding area, our children heard harp and voice spin seasonal beauty.  And the Messiah?  Well, that was a favorite at home. Whether it was the Mormon Tabernacle Choir or the Arrowhead Chorale, we heard the words of scripture set to song and string and the unfolding of the Jesus story.

So Leah took herself to a concert to open herself to that heart rhythm. 

And at that concert she heard a transgender artist sing “And Who May Abide the Day of His Coming”.

There.  In the midst of a story-telling centuries sung, new hope for God’s people shines.  For unto us a child is given;  A child who grew to be a man who knew and taught that the bounds of God’s grace is Hallelujah material for all people and sing that grace we must.

I wish I had been there to hold her tiny hand and share Kleenex.

snow!

It is a fabulous day.  We have had a major snow dump and wind sweep and we’re socked in.  I love it.

Today we ventured out to get the necessaries for such a time.  We were out of coffee.  It was not fitting.  And, our  snow blower was broken and after many nursings was declared dead.

So off we went to the local hardware store to get a new snow blower and to the grocery store to get the goods of happy life.

We got stuck in our alley.  There was nothing to be done, since the snow was up higher than the bottom of our four wheel drive car and we were going nowhere.

So, out of the back of the station wagon came the new snow blower, and we blew out the alley in order to find our way to the garage.  It was a hoot.

Today has been spent nesting.  I’m not sure if there will be church tomorrow.  The big choir do scheduled for worship has been postponed to Epiphany Sunday.  If we do have church, it will be gentle and savored by the few who love the challenge of clomping through drifts to share survivor stories.

Living in Minnesota is so fine.  Sometimes the elements trump our best laid plans.  That works for me.

colleagues

Being a pastor is crazy making work.  It’s true.

We exist, we pastor folk, to be in the midst of the community called church whilst being outside of the community called church.  We juggle many functions in our day and many of us love that variety and always-changing life.

And we’re oddities.  So it is really fun to gather with colleagues who understand the teeth gnash and the soul soar of ministry.  I meet once a month with a crew of folk I am proud to call friends and we swap stories and listen and share our care for each other and the movement that has meant our lives.

An article in USA Today speaks of the importance of attending church and having relationships within that church.  People are happier and better able to withstand the jolts of life when they have a sense of connection with others that is spiritual in its weaving.

I am blessed to be pastor to a church that provides that network of care for many, including their pastor, while it empowers outreach for many.  And, I am blessed to be pastor held by a network of clergy colleague friends who care for me and empower my ministry.

Friends matter.  They just do.

holy chaos

This is life tonight at church:

Over my head, children are ruckusing while practicing for the Christmas pageant in two weeks.  Energy is high high high and prayers for patience are deep deep deep.

The bell choir is learning “Fum, Fum, Fum” so their clangs and staggered melodies are making their way through the floor into my office.

In the fellowship hall there are pinatas being crafted by an intergenerational crew.  Strips of paper are soaked in gunk and rubbed onto balloons and the span of decades between participants seems to sweeten the air.

A meeting just broke up regarding the refurbished organ.  There are decisions to be made:  what kind of flooring, what kind of new carpet, what finish for the pipes, what, what, what?  We seek to come to greater wisdom by sharing around the table and we laugh plenty. 

There is a Disciple Bible Study group of 12 engaging with scripture and each other as they will for some thirty weeks to come.

And, tuning up in the sanctuary are the instrumentalists for the upcoming Lessons and Carols to be shared at 9:00 AM this Sunday during worship.

This is church.  It’s a holy sort of chaos.  Thanks be to God.